I was brought up in an era where being gay wasn't yet fully accepted. It was getting there, but stereotypes and bigotry take a long time to die. Relationships in general still weren't really talked about and I don't remember ever encountering an openly gay couple until I was in my teens. The word gay was never spoken of in an audible voice, particularly around children. I can talk quite openly with my children about sex, relationships, anything really, (age appropriately, of course!) but in those days, twenty five years ago, grown ups were excruciatingly embarrassed to even touch on the subject. I believe the reluctance to be open about the issues surrounding relationships may have played a part in the continuing ignorance about lesbian and gay people in the community.
I remember distinctly the first time news of the AIDS virus first hit the headlines, bringing gay and lesbian relationships into the public eye. I remember there being a lot of fear and uncertainty surrounding the virus. I also distinctly remember my babysitter (I was probably about eight at the time.) reassuring me that they were bound to have found a cure by the time I was old enough to need to worry about it. It was all very different to the way things are now. At least, I hope so. I can only really speak from personal experience, but in my household, relationships are relationships, it really doesn't matter what the circumstances are.
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For me, there is a very simple reason why this is the case. If I encounter a couple, let's assume, for argument's sake, that they are your average, run of the mill, heterosexual loved-up pair, I don't give a flying bomb what they get up to in the bedroom. I don't expect to hear about it, (that would be weird, right?) I don't expect to have to think about it and I certainly don't expect them to apologise for it. So, what's the difference?! If two people are standing in front of me, happy and not bothering me, why do I have to spend time forming an opinion on whether or not I think their relationship is acceptable? In the nicest possible way, I just don't care! To me, it is utterly ridiculous for anyone to say 'it's not natural', 'it's not right', 'it's disgusting', well possibly, I am sure a lot of 'straight' relationships are a bit 'out there', when it comes to their antics in the bedroom, but who wants to think about that?! Eurgh. Frankly, there is no such thing as a 'normal' relationship, when it comes to sex and in most cases we have no idea how 'normal' our sex lives are, because we don't compare. Because it's personal to the individuals concerned. That's how it should be. If you aren't bothering anyone else, who cares? So, why not let people's private lives remain private, the way it should be? It's the natural way.