xmlns:b='http://www.google.com/2005/gml/b' xmlns:data='http://www.google.com/2005/gml/data' xmlns:expr='http://www.google.com/2005/gml/expr' Ghost Post #1 | The Parent Game

Thursday, 16 October 2014

Ghost Post #1

Readers have been dropping off their dilemmas and guilty (or not!) confessions over the past couple of weeks, so here is the first of an occasional post, where we ask you, our lovely readers, to offer advice, sympathy, and occasional applause! 

My first reader would really appreciate some advice on how to handle the inlaws since her third child was born. Situations like this are becoming more and more common in our society, as 'blended families' arise due to new relationships, but there isn't always a rule book on how to handle it, particularly where the 'step inlaws' are concerned:


 "I have a dilemma for your readers. I have two older children and then married and had a child with my hubby. His family who didnt buy my older children now buy our baby for birthdays and christmas. ive spoke to hubby suggesting he should speak to them but he wont because he says its because shes a baby shes being spoiled, but its really upsetting that my two children arent being treated the same. They are teenagers now but were 7 and 8 when we got together. Fell free to get me some suggested solutions .... i need all the help i can get before i blow my fuse at them lol  step families !!! arrgghhh"

Reader number 2 is struggling with the dreaded teens. Emotions run high at this age and, as the younger sister with the same age gap, I can only sympathise! 

"Ok heres a rant- why did no one warn me about young teenage moods, scream and shouts ,puberty has a lot to answer for. If I am not trying to get my voice heard over the rows between a 15 year old boy and his sister a 13 year old girl, I am mopping up tears and calming down situations that flare up over things as little as a biscuit.
I aparantley am to solely to blame if some one can't find their other sock or haven't done all of their homework . Two lots of neighbours have moved out. I don't think its us that has caused it but I would not blame them if it was."

Your comments and advice, on either of these situations would be very much appreciated. You can comment below or, if you would prefer to remain anonymous, you can private message me here

On a lighter note, some interesting confessions have been submitted, which I thought it was in the public interest to share... 

"I have a confession to make! My last boyfriend decided that he liked my best friend more than he did me. So as revenge is a dish best served cold. I filled his posh designer work shoes with mushroom soup and filled the pockets of his swanky suit with tar tar sauce. Needless to say I think he has learnt his lesson as he was very embarrassed when he took his fishy suit to the dry cleaners. Hahahaha  Hahahaha"

"Hi - I have a confession - it is September 28th and I am already singing along to Christmas songs when they appear on my ipod!"

"i peed in a country lane once,,,,, on a bend i was rather ahem tipsy. It was a lane so quiet i thought!.... so had a pee..... mid squat headlights on my fat bum! Cue all my mates roaring at me flashing my full moon lol!"

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25 comments

  1. Well, this post made me chuckle! Unfortunately I am crap at giving advice but I'd just like to inform the Christmas song singer-alonger (is that a word) that I never take Christmas songs off my iPod and will happily play them all year round :p xx

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    1. If it isn't a word, it totally should be!

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  2. Not got any thing I must be boring lol oppsss.

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  3. Entertaining post! I've had a chuckle or two. You've put me on the spot though, I can't think of any confessions. There must be something....hmmmm.....

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  4. I love the one about the tartar sauce - bet that's pretty difficult to get out at the dry cleaners! Great post,I hope your guest posters with dilemmas find solutions and advice from people who've been through similar situations.

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  5. Aww I have no help for the first people sorry!

    But the second lot had me giggling can just imagine the ex turning up with his fishy suit! x

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  6. I am afraid I don't have a confession (well nothing that I could write down) but I can reply to your reader with the Teenage problem. My advice would be...........................................Wine, wine and more wine. Raising a teen is like nailing jelly to a tree. xx

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  7. My eldest is not my husband's son and his parents are often grossly unfair with presents for him and his cousin :( but equally unfair with our other children!!

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  8. sorry I don't know what to suggest for hte first post

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  9. Although not he same. My Outlaws always spoil my niece and do not do the same or treat their other grandchildren the same (my boys) I have learned that nothing I do will change it, so I have just had to change the fact that it bothered me. I put little weight on their opinions or the fact that they are unfair.

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  10. I'm not a good one to ask for advice on families, having been estranged by both mine and my in-laws...
    Could probably do with some hints myself ;-)

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  11. Gosh it's all hard isn't it. I know it's not ideal but if they aren't actually their grandchildren even I can understand why they don't feel they have to buy for your other children. My in-laws treat all my kids the same - badly.

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  12. I have no been a this parenting game long enough to offer advice, I am afraid. Haven't we all peed on a country road!? x

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  13. Gosh I'm not good at giving advise but when things get heated between people in this family we have a family get together around the table and all talk 'calmly' about things that are upsetting us, things we're not happy about etc. Then as a family we try and work out a solution for each problem.

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  14. I think older children take much more parenting than the babies!

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  15. I have three teenage stepsons and I'm now no longer with their Dad, so we're about as blended as it gets - if I was to offer any advice: Don't let an issue simmer away, no matter how uncomfortable keep pushing the subject until you get a solution that is right for all.

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  16. These are such tricky situations. I don't have teens yet so don't feel like I can offer much for either of the readers' questions except to wish them luck! However, I giggled at the last confession.

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  17. We live in a blended family too, but I generally find that it all sort of balances out - my youngest may get more gifts from his Dads side than my bigger two (who arent his) but equally they get gifts from their own Dads family, which my youngest doesnt. Swings and roundabouts!

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  18. I dont think any of my confessions would be suitable for posting ;) x

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  19. Reader number two. Been there and my advice is to try to stop being referee, its all about triggers they set triggers off in you with key screams, words and then often you are railing and ranting and they do not really care. Its point scoring. Teens are very much like toddlerss at this age, you may find you are all wound up and they have moved on.

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  20. Oh no... such a waste of a mushroom soup :-(

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  21. This made for interesting reading. I am rubbish at handing out advice.

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  22. We have it hard as parent's don't we.

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  23. I have a similar thing here, his parents refuse to buy as they get presents from both sets of their grandparents and its unfair on our child as they don't get as much. It's so frustrating but I insisted they get a token gift which has made things a bit easier. Trouble is with teens is that they feel so poor and hard done by whatever happens!

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  24. I don't really have any advice to give, although I do seem to be getting teenage-like tantrums from my 5-year-old every now and again!

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