In December, my daughter turned 18. This was an occasion that I was very much looking forward to, but also something I would have liked to put off! It's hard to watch your babies grow up, each new phase can be filled with pride, awe, excitement, but always a tinge of sadness at what's gone before. It's hard not to miss the amazing little girl she once was, she had a hilarious sense of humour, even from a tiny age, she was exceptionally kind and thoughtful and I am immensely proud that she has kept that side of her personality as she's got older. I suppose, really, you can't look on it as the adult replacing the child, more that the adult has grown up with the child at her centre. Like a creme egg. Very much like a creme egg actually. She was kind of a sticky child! Anyway, nostalgic melancholy aside, the other reason I would have liked to have done things differently, is because, it's one of those occasions when you want to get it right. There are a lot of occasions like that in a child's life, where it matters, because it's their lasting memory and it should be special. I worried, due to the financial constraints, it wouldn't be special enough. She had lovely presents, and a lovely cake, but there was no 'wow' factor. We had no car, but it was a lovely day, so we decided to take a walk to a local pub, for her first official drink. I took this picture.
It was when I got home and looked at it on the laptop. I realised something. We had a really nice time. The sun was out all the way there, and on the way home, it was getting dark and there were beautiful Christmas lights everywhere. It was such a lovely, relaxing time. It made me realise that it's not about comparing your life to other people's, spending a certain amount of money, or having the flashiest event, it's about having a lovely time. What she wanted to do was go to a pub and have a quiet drink. Which we did. So, in that respect at least, it was spot on.
This is an entry for Moments that Mattered, prize provided by Lloyds TSB.